Becoming a Better Human with The Happy Body

Practicing the positive discipline of The Happy Body Lifestyle and the freedom to say “no” what’s not beneficial for you.
Practicing the positive discipline of The Happy Body Lifestyle and the freedom to say “no” what’s not beneficial for you.

Controlling yourself is attractive.
Controlling others is repulsive.
Helping others control themselves is magical.
–Jerzy Gregorek

How often have you seen someone become obnoxious at a party, so drunk that they’re stumbling, shouting, and making offensive jokes they would never tell if they were sober. Or people stampeding to board a bus with no concern for the young or elderly, elbowing others to reach the best seat? Have you been in a situation at the grocery store or post office, watching people who can’t tolerate waiting in line, who start to grumble and complain? Have you ever, yourself, got into an angry outburst at a restaurant when food was late or not what you’ve expected?

Attitude is up to us

What all these situations have in common is a lack of self-control. We all can resolve any problem in a constructive way if we slow down, stay calm, and treat others with respect. So if your entrée arrives late or overcooked, you can speak to the server and reach a solution. It’s possible to be both assertive and kind. You can apply the same attitude in practicing The Happy Body. Kindness towards yourself will guide you to take assertive steps to exercise. You can acknowledge that you may not want to do it, but that it only takes 30 minutes and that you will feel better when you’re done. Self-control doesn’t have to be mean or draconian, it can be respectful.

The opposite of self-control looks like throwing a tantrum: yelling, using inappropriate language, striking out at others, whining, complaining, being impulsive and repulsive. It’s as if an adult has regressed back to the state of a child.

Self Control helps you feel your best

So what is self-control? It means training yourself like you train your dog, with a vision of what that dog will be like in the future—free of the leash, eager and responsive to your whistle, walking by your side like a friend, because he wants to. Self-control is a core quality of responsible, self-reliant adulthood. It’s also conscious and aware; it makes decisions from a place of healthy ethics and principles.

Bella and her boyfriend Beau patiently waiting for my OK to eat

Self-control means having the freedom to say “no” to those things that make us worse. For instance, you can visit any buffet restaurant and see the tragedy of people out of control, eating more than is good for them and more than they ultimately want. Self-control means I can choose a nice piece of steak, delicious veggies and soup, and have an enjoyable dinner from the same buffet. Or, self-control means that I don’t even go, because I know that I will lose myself in the face of all the variety and feel bad afterwards.

Having a plan and strong principles can save us from overeating

The Happy Body Program is consciously structured to empower people to acquire self-control in various ways. You exercise every day, finishing with the stress-release relaxation routine; and you follow the food plan by eating every three hours with two meals and two snacks, controlling the volume, with selected choices to prevent overwhelm. And if you fail, you take ownership—a crucial component of self-control—and journal or write poetry to grapple with your emotions.


Where do you lose self-control? Do you have any personal techniques you use to maintain it in the face of a challenge? Have you seen how The Happy Body strengthened your self-control over the past year? How did it manifest?

Leave your response below in the comments.

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  • One of my weaknesses is cake. I love the texture of the filling and frosting. If it’s a store bought cake, I’m better able to control myself by reading the label of ingredients. Once I see all the junk that goes into it, I can usually leave it alone. The happy body has strengthened my self control in that I’m much more aware of each calorie I’m taking in, so if I really want something I shouldn’t have, I will eat just a little of it, and will sometimes build it into my meal/snack calories if possible.
    One of my pet peeves is when the light turns green and the car ahead of me doesn’t move. I often honk, just once, but still I do it. I’m not sure if that’s losing self control, or just waking them up.

    • Arlene,
      I’m glad you found the way to control, if not kind of foods at least the amount – it’s a great progress already.
      Practicing patience is a good practice. There is always this old lady in a pink Cadillac with slower reflexes. One day we might be this lady.

  • I loved how you defined what is self-control. So true. Having the freedom to say “no” to what makes us actually worse. Thanks!

  • Aniela, I really enjoy reading your post and those of Jersey too. I find them very inspiring. I train very hard for self-control and the Happy Body program you created helps me to. It’s sometimes hard for me to practice it every day, because I’m already training for rock climbing after work and feels sometimes exhausted.
    But I really want to do it more regularly. Thanks a lot for your posts and keep writing 😀

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